The article “Will Happily Married Couples be Together in Heaven?” has become one of the most heavily read posts here on the Spiritual Insights for Everyday Life website. Since the time it was published five years ago, it has been visited over 125,000 times. Clearly there is a great yearning for good and comforting news among people who have lost a wife, husband, or other romantic partner. For partners who dearly love one another, the unbiblical “Christian” belief that there is no marriage in heaven is very bad news, not the good news of the Gospel. (See: “Didn’t Jesus Say There’s No Marriage in Heaven?” and the articles linked at the end of it.)
And yet, people want assurance. Many times since that article was originally published, we’ve heard from readers who are concerned that perhaps their partner will not be waiting for them on the other side, and may not be with them in spirit.
Of course, I do not have God’s infinite vision nor God’s infinite wisdom. It’s not for me to say whether a particular couple will be together in heaven. The most I can say for sure is that couples who love one another will meet on the other side, and can then continue their relationship forever if that’s what they want.
And it will be even better than it was before.
For most people whose partner has moved on to the spiritual world, any assurance that their relationship will continue forever must come from within, and from the relationship itself. Let’s take a look at one reader’s questions about this.
Are we really still together?
Here is the most recent Spiritual Conundrum on this issue, submitted to by a reader named Bob S.:
My wife and I were married before, both with bad experiences. Her Ex left her and two small girls 7 and 8 years old and married his girlfriend, so she divorced him. My Ex had affairs with many different men, including her father, and then divorced me.
My wife and I and met, fell in love, and lived together for a couple of years when I was recalled to active duty for Desert Storm, and we got married before I retired from the USAF. We were married in a church rather than in some government office. We wanted it this way. We were married for 2 months shy of 30 years. She became sick during the last 7–8 years of this time, passing away on her birthday this past November ’21. I am devastated, yet happy that she no longer is adversely affected with all of the many health problems.
My questions are:
- How do I know she is with me in spirit? I do not think I feel her presence, yet I have heard a single distinct ring coming though the TV and telephone 5 different times in the last 30 days or so. Could this be her?
- How do I know that once I pass over to the other side that she will be waiting there to greet me, or do I have to hunt for her?
- I talk to her several times every day. Does she see or hear me?
- I understand that we get a new spiritual younger body after we pass over. Are they younger bodies of ourselves or do we look different?
- I really love my wife and have said to her when I talk to her that I will remain faithful to her and our marriage. I am concerned that she might get tired of waiting for me and search there for another. I read your statements over and over that those of us married here on earth will rejoin our spouse on the other side and experience a more spiritual, loving, joyful life together. This has given me great comfort! So may I assume that rejoining with her will happen very soon upon arriving there?
I am confused about all of this and just want to be with my wife as soon as I can!
I thank you and need your comments and advice.
Bob S.
Hi Bob,
First, I am sorry to hear about your wife’s death after a long illness. As you say, she is now free from all of her health problems. But it is still very hard for you to be left behind here on earth. The time when you will rejoin her is in God’s hands. Meanwhile, perhaps I can offer you some help and reassurance.
Much of what I have to offer comes from the book Heaven and Hell, by Emanuel Swedenborg (1688–1772). This is the most expansive and detailed description of the spiritual world ever written, based on direct personal experience. Its picture of the other life has since been abundantly verified by thousands of people who have briefly experienced that realm in near-death experiences.
Let’s dig right into your questions.
How can I be sure?
You ask:
1. How do I know she is with me in spirit? I do not think I feel her presence, yet I have heard a single distinct ring coming though the TV and telephone 5 different times in the last 30 days or so. Could this be her?
It is quite common, but certainly not universal, for people whose partner has died to receive some sign of their deceased partner’s presence, especially in the days immediately following their death. Sometimes it is a voice. Sometimes it is a touch. Sometimes it is a bird in the window. Often it is something that was special between the two of them. Sometimes it is just some silly little thing.
Could it be a distinct ring repeatedly coming through the TV and telephone? Skeptics would scoff at this, and say you’re just imagining things. But the thing to understand is that since your wife is now in the spiritual world, if she does make her presence felt, it will be through your spiritual senses, not through your physical senses. If it is a sign from her, most likely no one else in the room with you would hear that ring, nor would the speakers of the TV or telephone have produced the sound. Rather, it would he a sound heard with your spiritual ears, which your mind perceives as coming from the TV or telephone.
Once again, skeptics would call it a hallucination. But if the spiritual world is indeed real, as all of the great religions assure us, then these sorts of signs are simply the way it makes itself felt among people on earth whose spiritual senses are not ordinarily open.
Short version: If it feels to you like it’s a sign from your wife, then it probably is.
But really, the greater reason to have some assurance that she is still with you in spirit is your knowledge that she was with you in spirit for so many years here on earth. This brings us to your next question.
Will I have to hunt for my partner after I die?
2. How do I know that once I pass over to the other side that she will be waiting there to greet me, or do I have to hunt for her?
Here on earth, people who love each other can get physically separated, often by forces beyond their control. Some of them never see each other again. Even with all our modern communications technology, sometimes it proves impossible to find someone we are searching for who is now living at a great physical distance from us.
That’s not how it works in heaven.
In the spiritual world, time and space as we know it in the physical world do not exist. Yes, we experience something like time. Our life moves forward. We experience and do different things along the way, and we grow as a person. And yes, we can look around us and see some people and things close to us, and others far away.
However, in the spiritual world it is not our body, but our spirit that determines how close we are to other people, or how distant. In particular, it is our love that determines how near or far another person is. In the spiritual world, people who love one another are drawn together by that love, whereas people who don’t care for one another are separated by that lack of love.
In heaven, we are close to the people we love not only metaphorically, but literally as well.
That’s why you will not have to hunt for your wife after you die. Throughout thirty years of marriage, the two of you developed a closeness to one another in love and affection. That closeness will draw her to your side as soon as you wake up in the spiritual world. Even if for some strange reason she cannot be there for that great event, the two of you will find each other quickly and effortlessly. That’s how simply things work in the spiritual world.
Can my partner in heaven see me and hear me?
3. I talk to her several times every day. Does she see or hear me?
Our physical senses cannot see, hear, or sense anything in the spiritual world. That’s not possible.
The reverse is ordinarily true as well: people in the spiritual world normally cannot see, hear, or sense anything in the physical world.
However, under special circumstances, our spiritual senses do have the capability of sensing physical things. It is possible that your wife actually could see you and hear you when you talk to her.
More likely, though, when you talk to her she will sense your presence within her mind. She will feel what you are feeling about her, and sense the things you are thinking about her. That’s because our mind is our spirit, and since your wife is now fully a spirit living in the spiritual world, it is your thoughts and feelings that she will be able to perceive, not your words and actions.
This will be true only when your mind is not focused on the things, people, and activities that are all around you here on earth. When our mind is focused on the material world, we become imperceptible to people in the spiritual world. That’s because their mind is dwelling on the spiritual level, while our mind is dwelling on the physical level. (But we do have to continue living our life here on earth. If we’re still on earth, God still has work for us to do.)
However, occasionally, when you are deep in thought about higher things, it is possible that you may appear to your wife in the spiritual world. Listen to what Swedenborg has to say about this in his book Heaven and Hell, #438:
I may add here that even while we are living in our bodies, each one of us is in a community with spirits as to our own spirit even though we are unaware of it. Good people are in angelic communities by means of [their spirits] and evil people are in hellish communities. Further, we come into those same communities when we die. People who are coming into the company of spirits after death are often told and shown this.
Actually, we are not visible as spirits in our [spiritual] communities while we are living in the world because we are thinking on the natural level. However, if our thinking is withdrawn from the body we are sometimes visible in our communities because we are then in the spirit. When we are visible, it is easy to tell us from the spirits who live there because we walk along deep in thought, silent, without looking at others, as though we did not see them; and the moment any spirit addresses us, we disappear.
Therefore especially as you move into your older years, and start thinking more about eternity and the deeper, more spiritual issues of life, you may become a regular visitor to your wife’s community in heaven. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work the other way around. But at least it would give her extra assurance that you are still with her in spirit, not to mention giving her fleeting glimpses of your beloved presence.
Will our body still be recognizable in the spiritual world?
4. I understand that we get a new spiritual younger body after we pass over. Are they younger bodies of ourselves or do we look different?
When we first cross over to the spiritual world, it is very likely that we will look exactly the same as we did here on earth just before we died. That’s because as long as we’re living in our physical body, we identify with it and think of it as “me.” We carry that identification with our physical appearance into the spiritual world with us. And in the spiritual world, our sense of self determines what we look like.
However, while we are living in the world it is also very common for our physical body not to fully express who we are inside. In particular, as we grow older we may grow increasingly frustrated with a physical body that is no longer able to do all the things we want and love and know how to do in our mind. Assuming we haven’t become hypochondriacs who glory in our infirmities, these physical limitations of an aging body will quickly fade away once we enter the spiritual world. We will once again live in a youthful and healthy body that can express everything that is in our mind and heart.
As we move onward in the spiritual world, our body may go through additional changes in appearance to make it more fully and perfectly express our inner character. This may or may not resemble the physical body we inhabited while on earth. People who are beautiful inside, but who were not blessed with a beautiful body on earth, will have a spiritual body that is just as beautiful outwardly as they are inwardly.
For more on this, please see:
Will My Body be the Right Weight and Appearance in the Afterlife?
I suspect that the underlying question here is: will my wife and family and friends still recognize me in the other world? Will I still be the same old me that they know and love?
The answer to this question is: Yes . . . if the love and friendship is a deep one, and not based only on external and superficial things.
What if you have friends and acquaintances at work, but you are drawn together only by your shared workplace, and not by any shared views about life? These people have only a superficial relationship with you, and you with them. If they died before you, they might recognize you when you first enter the spiritual world after you die. But as your spiritual body grows more and more into a reflection of your inner spirit, they will no longer recognize you. That’s precisely because it was a relationship based only on outward activities and appearances, which you are now leaving behind.
Meanwhile, for the people who know you as a person—your thoughts and feelings, your goals and aspirations—any changes in your outward appearance in the spiritual world will make no difference at all in their ability to recognize you as the person they know and love. That’s because their relationship with you is based, not on your outward appearance, but on your inner character. In fact, the more your spiritual body changes to fully reflect the person you are inside, the more they will recognize the real you that is the person they have loved all along.
This will be most true of all of the person you have shared your life, your thoughts, and your feelings with for so many years.
Will my partner start looking for someone else in the spiritual world?
5. I really love my wife and have said to her when I talk to her that I will remain faithful to her and our marriage. I am concerned that she might get tired of waiting for me and search there for another. I read your statements over and over that those of us married here on earth will rejoin our spouse on the other side and experience a more spiritual, loving, joyful life together. This has given me great comfort! So may I assume that rejoining with her will happen very soon upon arriving there?
One of the greatest fears we humans experience is the fear of losing the people we love. Our greatest fear is losing the one we love most of all.
This is why on the negative side, jealousy has been such a great and often such a destructive force in the lives of lovers. In the worst scenario, the fear of losing one’s partner becomes a terrible, blazing jealousy that destroys the relationship and causes the loss of the loved one.
On the positive side, the fear of losing our partner and soulmate motivates us to do everything we can to ensure that we will not lose him or her. It can be a great motivator pushing us to do the hard work on our own self and our own character so that we can be our best and most lovable self. In cases of extreme danger, it may even lead us to put our own life on the line to save the life of the one we love. For those who know the depths of love, life itself is less important than that love.
Given the depth and power of this feeling, it is only natural that after our partner has died, we will feel some fear that the physical separation will lead to our losing her or him altogether. It’s only human.
The real answer to this painful question for you is to consider what your relationship with your wife had become during the thirty years you were together.
Consider first that each of you came into the marriage having been cheated on and abandoned by your previous spouse. Further, the fact that you wanted to be married in a church says that both of you believe in the sacredness of marriage. Then you spent the next thirty years being faithful to one another. That doesn’t happen by accident!
What was happening during those thirty years of marriage? The two of you were continually growing closer in spirit, sharing and adopting one another’s thoughts and feelings. You were becoming more and more husband and wife. You stayed with her and continued to love and care for her even through her long years of physical illness. This binds two people even more closely together.
Thirty years is a long time to spend together! If, after all those years, you are still very much in love with your wife, that did not happen by accident. During those thirty years, the two of you were indeed becoming one.
Now consider this:
If, while she was still alive, your wife had taken a trip to a distant country for a week or a month or a year, where would you be when she returned?
I’ll tell you where: You would be in the airport lobby, as close as security would allow you to get to the gate where she will disembark from the airplane that carried her back home to you.
That is exactly where your wife will be when, in God’s good time, you make the journey from this world to the next to rejoin her.
This article is a response to a spiritual conundrum submitted by a reader.
For further reading:
- How does Marriage Fit In with a Spiritual Life? Is There Marriage in Heaven?
- Will Happily Married Couples be Together in Heaven?
- Didn’t Jesus Say There’s No Marriage in Heaven?
- Marriage in the Resurrection: The Deeper Meaning
- Is There Sex in Heaven?
- Man, Woman, and the Two Creation Stories of Genesis
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Lee Woofenden is an ordained minister, writer, editor, translator, and teacher. He enjoys taking spiritual insights from the Bible and the writings of Emanuel Swedenborg and putting them into plain English as guides for everyday life.
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Please keep doing what your doing. It is great comfort to us who have lost our soul mate till we reunite. God bless.
Hi alexsettino,
Thanks for stopping by, and for your good words. It is a joy to me to be able to give help and comfort. May God be with you until the time comes when you rejoin the one you love.
Thank you for taking the time to reply back.
What about single people like me who never found love here on earth? Will we have to hunt everywhere in heaven for our soulmates? How do I even know God has a soulmate for me?
Hi Deeply Wounded,
Good to hear from you again. Here is a post that takes up this exact question:
Can you Fall in Love in Heaven if you Haven’t Found Someone on Earth?
Once you’ve had a chance to read it, feel free to continue the conversation in the comments section there. Meanwhile, may God be with you.
“Of course, I do not have God’s infinite vision nor God’s infinite wisdom. It’s not for me to say whether a particular couple will be together in heaven. The most I can say for sure is that couples who love one another will meet on the other side, and can then continue their relationship forever if that’s what they want.”
LOL!! You don’t have “Gods infinite wisdom” and you said “it’s not for you to say whether a particular couple will be heaven” but then you turn around and say that “the most you can for sure 😂😂 is that those couples who love each other will meet on the other side.”
Either you know what God will do it you don’t. And if you don’t know, then you don’t know whether couples will meet each other again or not.
You’ve literally contradicting yourself, Lee.
Hi godisreal2017,
No. I said that I cannot say whether any specific couple will be together in heaven. But I said that in general, couples who love one another can continue their relationship on the other side. There is no contradiction.
If I say, “I can’t tell you whether this particular male duck will mate with that particular female duck, but I can tell you that male ducks will mate with female ducks,” there is no contradiction. One is a specific statement about particular individual ducks. The other is a generalization about the reality that male and female ducks do mate with one another.
Very well explained Lee.
Will my desire to grow in goodness and truth, love and wisdom prepare me to be a spiritual match for my much better departed wife in heaven?
Hi Joe,
Yes indeed! Perhaps that’s why you are still here, not there with her: you have some catching up to do!
But seriously, I know the separation is hard. However, if you think of each day as an opportunity to prepare yourself a little bit more for your reunion with her, it can make it feel more worth living each day. Every bit of spiritual work you do here on earth—as you say, growing in goodness and truth, love and wisdom—will prepare you for a happier life with her to eternity.
Meanwhile, Godspeed on your spiritual journey.
Thank you Lee. You are a true blessing. I want to live each day in such a way that my Lord Jesus and my precious wife can be proud of me.
Hi Joe,
You are most welcome. It is my pleasure.
Hi, Lee, thank you so much for publishing this excellent article. The Lord guided me many years ago to your ministry, and the spiritual truth you teach changed my life back then and that continues today. This article gives me so much encouragement for the hope and love the Lord has in mind for my eternal future and for the eternal future of all mankind.
Hi waltchilds7,
You are most welcome. It is my pleasure and my joy. Thank you for the kind words. I hope all is well with you.
My very good friend that was my lover Chris his name is passed away will he still love me and my daughter like he did on earth and be my lover in heaven
Hi Liz,
I am sorry to hear about the death of your friend and lover. When it comes your time to move on to the spiritual world, you will be able to rejoin him. Then, if your connection with him is spiritual and true, he will become your partner in marriage in heaven. Meanwhile, Godspeed on your spiritual journey.
Awsome I can’t wait to see him again his my soulmate on earth and now I hope in heaven like u said we are meant to be together soon
Lee, your reply about rejoining a loved one in heaven is very comforting to me and makes me not only look forward to entering the spiritual realm one day, but it also makes me love the Lord even more, for providing for all of us such a loving afterlife.
Hi Walt,
Always good to hear from you, my friend. I hope you and Rosemary are doing well. And yes, for me, knowing that my marriage can continue in the spiritual world makes everything here worthwhile.
Hi Lee I had two dreams of Chris and messages on the window and mirror we were very very good friends like he said but we acted like a couple he said I love u to me and still is . So can he come back alive. And be on earth again
Hi Liz,
He will not come back to earth again. But he is with you in spirit.
He wrote on the mirror Chris did and said hi you Liz I love you and I know that was him I miss him I want to see him again but I guess I have to wait.
Hi Liz,
Good to hear from you again, and good to know that you have received signs from him to keep hope and comfort alive in your heart.
Yeah I wish he called me or text me again lol . He meant so much to me we loved each other and we were spossed to be together but he passed away 32 years old. He still loves me and my daughter .
Hi Liz,
Yes, usually there is just some brief contact not long after the one you love dies, to reassure you that he’s still alive and doing fine. 32 is very young. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you Lee I miss him so much I love him so much. We will be together soon
Does my good friend Chris still think of me and miss me and love me and my daughter still cause he always talked to us when he was alive.
Hi Liz,
If you were close in this life, and the closeness was a matter of the heart, and not just of external acquaintance, then he will still think of you and miss you, and look forward to seeing you and your daughter when the time comes for you to reunite in heaven.
Cool thank you Lee his name Chris was on the mirror why is that
Hi Liz,
Only God knows for sure.
It was Chris that wrote it.
I need to know the date and day when Chris passed away and no body is answering me back. So how can I find out
Hi Liz,
Try googling his full name with the word “obituary.” Local papers and funeral homes often post obituaries of deceased people. This would give the date of death. If he has a common name, try adding the name of the town where he lived to narrow the search.
Hi Lee it didn’t work and he got cremated so now what how am I supposed to know when Chris the love of my life died.
Hi Liz,
That was my best idea. Was Chris not someone you knew personally? How is it that you don’t know when he died?
I did but he lived in Colorado springs and I lived in Westminster co and his family doesn’t like me much and his friends don’t either so now I don’t have info and it sucks I only no the time
Hi Liz,
That does make things difficult. How long ago did he die? If it was recently, there may still be an obituary published online within the next month or two.
August it is hard cause I use to talk to Chris all the time
Hi Liz,
August 2022? That’s very recent.
Also, if you have a little money, you could hire a local private investigator to find out when he died. A PI could likely find out pretty quickly. Shouldn’t be too expensive.
Yeah no money but I wish his friends and mom would answer me back I guess I will never know kinda sucks through .
Chris my good friend died august 26 2022 I miss him so much he sends me messages on the window and mirror and clouds and I felt his touch last night it was him Chris . Are we going to be together forever again in heaven
Hi Liz,
If he is still with you, then it certainly sounds like you will be together in heaven.
Cool like hopefully together as lovers cause we had a great thing when he was alive but he made up a bad choice and crashed and died on a motorcycle pressed the wrong paddle break and went front face on his face and he was in a coma woke up went to surgery and died . Braindead .
Hi Liz,
It’s a very sad story. But it can have a happy ending in the afterlife. I can’t predict the future. But I can say that the two of you will be able to meet in the afterlife after you have finished your life here on earth. And that if the connection is a real one, you can pick up where you left off before his untimely death. And that if the connection is a deep one, you can spend the rest of eternity together as lovers.
Awesome i can’t wait to see him again and be with him I wish he was with me person face to face it’s hard I miss him and love him
Hi can my good friend Chris that die still visit me on Halloween that would be awesome let me know liz
Hi Liz,
Did he visit you?
Chris my good friend wrote on the mirror and said gf Liz and hey you and hi does that mean Iam his gf
Hi Liz,
You can probably answer that question better than I can.
You bring me peace, I just know I’m going to see and be with my husband if forty years, ty
Hi Sandy,
I am glad you have found some peace. It is a hard road to travel, but where there’s understanding and hope, we can make it through.
Lord Jesus, as I long to be with my sweet princess in heaven, please help me to trust that You have written the end of our story and all glory, honor, and praise to you King of the Universe. Amen.
Hi Joe,
Amen to that!
I feel so much better after reading several articles. Thank you! I am new to widowhood, sadly. My husband passed October 2023. It’s difficult at best. I am thrilled to have found you and your articles. It has lifted my pain. Thank you again!
Hi Michelle,
I am so sorry to hear about the recent death of your husband. You are most welcome for any help and comfort the articles here are giving you. Losing our closest loved-one is a hard burden to bear. But knowledge is power to carry that burden and not sink under its weight.
Meanwhile, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
P.S. If you reply, please do not type in ALL CAPS. I usually delete comments in all caps (see our comments policy), but because your comment is so personal I made an exception this time and converted your comment to regular text instead.
Hello Lee!
I greatly appreciate your article’s. Specifically your education and interpretation of the scripture.
My wife lost a battle with brain Cancer six years ago. We were married 48 years at the time of her passing. Our marriage continues in my mind heart and body!
I have had personal issues in accepting many of the teachings in traditional churches following her death.
Your article’s are definitely more inline with my heart felt belief’s!
Thank You and God Bless!….Brian
Hi Brian,
Thanks for stopping by and telling your story. I’m sorry to hear about your wife’s death. At least you had a good long time with her here on earth. Yes, your marriage continues even now, despite the reality that the two you are separated by the veil of death. Yet you can look forward to rejoining her and continuing your full relationship once your own time on this earth is complete.
Meanwhile, Godspeed on your spiritual journey.
Almost 7 months ago my wife passed away, suddenly and unexpected. This month would have been our 8th wedding anniversary. Our being together though goes back around 15 years ago. I’m traumatized about the 15 minutes that led to her passing. I think about that very often. I do try to focus on the positive side that she is in a far better place. The reason that I am writing is that shortly after I lost her, I searched for some spiritual answers concerning whether we would still be married on the other side. It led to your web site. It was here that I learned about Emanuel Swedenborg. I then found the Swedenborg Foundation where I feel that I have found the spiritual answers I have long been looking for. I have downloaded many of Swedenborg’s writings and followed explanations on Off The Left Eye.
Thanks to your very thoughtful articles, I can draw much comfort about the condition of my wife. She is, without any doubt, my soulmate. I know that God directed me to this valuable information. He truly is the God of Love and Wisdom.
Deep inside and from my own religious training I knew that some way or some how I will see her again. I was foggy about what our relationship would be on the other side. I couldn’t imagine that our relationship would be over. It just didn’t feel right to me. Never did!
I hope that others will find the comfort I have gotten. Losing a husband or wife especially if you are very close is the most painful experience anyone can have if they don’t have hope of seeing each other again.
May God continue to bless the work you and the Swedenborg Foundation is doing.
Cliff
Hi Cliff,
It is good to hear from you again. Thanks for your kind words. Knowing that this website is helping you and many others who are struggling with the pains and losses of life here on earth is what keeps me going.
I am glad to hear that you have delved more deeply into Swedenborg’s teachings and his message about the afterlife. It is true that I grew up in the Swedenborgian Church. But over many years of surveying the religious landscape, though there are some fine religions and churches out there, I have not found anything else that even comes close to the depth, power, and comfort of what Swedenborg experienced and taught in his writings. It is, in my view, the genuine spiritual message of the Bible.
Meanwhile, hang in there. It is very hard to be separated from the one we love. Home is where the heart is, and your heart is with Dee. Yet God seems to think you still have work to do here on earth. At least you can now have the assurance that when your work here is over you can rejoin your love, and the two of you can resume your beautiful life together–this time without any fear or concern that you will ever be separated again.
Hi Lee
I am so glad that I have found your site. I do believe that I have been directed here and to other Swedenborg information centers. I knew absolutely nothing about him or his journey. I have shared what I have found with my in laws and others.
You are absolutely right that home is where the heart is. Losing her has been like being thrown into a Twilight Zone. I want to wake up and find her beside me. I have read several NDEs in a couple of books. I now can picture her in paradise with her family and Son who passed a year earlier. This all makes sense and has really made me see God in whole new light.
I will be patient as I know that Dee would want me to. I know that she will be waiting for me and anxious to show me around. Again thank you and keep up the good work!
Cliff
Hi Cliff,
Thanks again for the kind words. It is also good to hear that you aren’t keeping your newfound knowledge to yourself, but are sharing it with others, especially Dee’s family. They must be hurting also. I hope the things you can now tell them will give them some comfort and hope as well.
God bless you Lee. I am grateful for you. You are a blessing to so many of us. I have shared your Swedenborgian knowledge with my younger brother. His wife passed a month after my sweet wife passed. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Hi Joe,
Good to hear from you again. Sorry to hear about your sister-in-law’s passing. At least you have some comforting news to share with your brother about that. The two of you are in the middle of it now, but as they say, all’s well that ends well.
Hi Lee,
I just wanted to get your thoughts on these questions here? That these supposedly”3 of the TOP Mediums Explain Life After Death…Address Major Misconceptions” and that “During this summit we address some of the controversial ideas proposed by certain mediums and YouTube personalities about where we go when we die. Featuring Dr. Ian Rubenstein, Julia Marie and Cynthia Rose. TOPIC COVERED: Do we become an “electromagnetic signal” after we die? Is physical touch impossible? Is astral projection an illusion created by benevolent spirits? Do we inevitably “merge with God” and disappear after a “period of time” in a non-eventful afterlife? Are people who commit horrendous acts just “playing a role” without consequences? Are our deceased loved ones we contact just facsimiles and not the real people?”
These so called mediums and doctors they say we are all “energy” but I just wanted to ask your thoughts on these questions here because of course they come from a New Age perspective they all espouse the same thing?
And my other question is this person does a horrible job trying to “debunk” Response to Skeptic: “All Afterlife Stuff is Just Created Subconsciously” He says “Here’s a common skeptic argument that ‘spirits’ don’t exist except as artifacts created, somehow, in our subconscious. What’s going on with THAT argument? Well, there’s a not-too-surprising explanation for this person’s argument at least in this case.” All he says that if our subconscious is that powerful to create all spiritual things that it’s powerful enough the survive death and that “both” can be real. What are your thoughts on a skeptic comment like that?
And my last question is that someone asked the person “Parallel Selves: Do We Get Absorbed Into Other Versions of Us?” He goes on to say “A commenter brings up the topic of whether or not our “astral selves” absorb into us destroying who we once were. What’s my opinion?”
But what he says is like the most confusing thing ever it doesn’t even make sense and of course the “parallel self” is our self in another physical universe. Or we have another incarnations taking place at the same time. It’s just a bizarre concept?
Here’s the link https://x.com/samsquestions/status/1751243575105302874?s=46 I actually just linked the Tumblr post to the twitter account. Let me know if this works.
Also thank you for telling me about putting the link between lines. I didn’t even think about that!
Thank you again Lee
Hi Sam,
My answer is, “No to all of the above!” 😀
Even the three mediums being interviewed in the second video disagree with all of these things. Some of the things they say are a bit fuzzy, and they generally seem to believe in reincarnation, but they still say that in the spiritual world we are real and solid, we have all our senses, and we still have everything that makes us human even though we’re no longer in our physical body in the physical world.
Contrary to what one of them suggested, our senses are much more vivid in the spiritual world than they are here. We can see and hear better, we have a heightened sense of touch, and so on. It is this world that is dim and shadowy compared to the spiritual world, not the other way around as so many people think.
Also, we not only keep our individuality, but it is heightened and intensified on the other side. Everything that doesn’t fit with our true and unique inner character is shed in our second stage after death before we move on to either heaven or hell. And since reincarnation doesn’t happen, there are no other characters or personalities to integrate in with the one we have now, nor do we flip around between different personalities like a schizophrenic. We are each our own unique self, and no one else.
We also do not become God, nor do we see all time and space at once as God does. We do have a heightened sense of the past and future, but we are still moving along in the passage of events, having new experiences and gaining new knowledge.
It may seem to some people who experience the other side that there is a godlike consciousness there because time and space as we know it here does not exist in the spiritual world. But because we are finite, not infinite, we still don’t experience all of the spiritual equivalent of time and space at once as God does. We are still in our current “place” and “time” in heaven, moving forward in “time” and moving around in “space” there. It’s just that “time” is our developing thinking, and “space” is our emotional state. They are determined from within, not from something outside of us such as the earth rotating on its axis or orbiting the sun.
No matter how long we continue in the spiritual world, we will never become God. God is infinite. We are finite. What is finite can never become infinite. But what is infinite can reach out to what is finite and have a relationship with it. So God, from the infinite state in which God is, reaches out to us finite beings, and brings us into relationship with God if we are willing. And that will always be a relationship. It will not be a merging of one into the other.
After all, the whole reason God created the universe was that God wanted beings to love. If we all became God, that would make the whole thing kind of pointless, wouldn’t it?
And no, God didn’t send out sparks of God’s self to learn and experience new things. God is omniscient, meaning God knows everything. There is nothing new for God to learn or experience. God does not gain new experiences from having us out here in this shadowy world where evil exists. What God gains is people to love. And if we are willing to love God in return by focusing our life on God and on other people rather than only on ourselves, then God will give us everything our heart desires, and vastly more.
That will include relationships with the people we love. And those relationships do not have to end at death. They can continue to eternity. This is especially true for the people we love the most, and for our relationship with the one person who we love so much that we want to share our life with him or her forever.
Hi Lee,
Thank you so kindly for the all the clarification! I super appreciate it! And everything makes so much more sense on what you said. And really putting those New Age misconceptions in their place. And I never thought about that how God knows everything so there’s no need for God to learn. It’s all about creating a love relationship with God and others which that is such a truly inspiring statement and just again makes so much more sense. And how we don’t have to incarnate or other versions of our self to “learn” which is so much better!
Thank you again Lee
Hi Sam,
As always, you are most welcome. For another article along these lines, please see:
God is Love . . . And That Makes All the Difference in the World
Hello again, Lee
I just can’t get enough of these very encouraging articles. I may have said this before but I wish that I had come across Emanuel Swedenborg years ago. I know that my wife would agree with me when I say that this is what we both have been looking for. We just knew in our hearts that death would not separate us. My wedding band remains and will stay on my finger. I have no doubt that she has a band on her finger as well. I have read and reread all your articles relating to marriage. I know that your work has had a healing effect on many people as myself. Thank you and keep up the good work The Lord.
Cliff
Hi Cliff,
Good to hear from you again, my friend. Thanks for the kind words. Sorry for the disappearing messages. The spam filter has been overactive lately. I’m glad to hear that the articles here continue to give you solace and hope. I have no doubts that when it comes your time to move on to the next world, your wife will be waiting for you, her wedding band still on her finger.
Most people with even an ounce of goodness in them will want to be reunited with their partners when they pass into the afterlife and many will need reassurance that this is possible. Articles like this provide the comfort and reassurance people are looking for. On the other hand there are the completely opposite views and if people read those they will likely end up at best disillusioned and at worst suicidal. The differing rationalities between religions also make the whole subject more complicated to understand so I prefer to take a more simplistic approach no matter which religion you identify with. There is black and there is white and either there is something after death or there is nothing. Spending your whole life believing in the ‘nothing’ will make you a very hard and uncaring personality with absolutely nothing to look forward to. Worse still, when you pass over and discover there really is ‘something’ after all why would those already there want to associate with a person who has spread nothing but blackness and negativity during their Earthly existence? Far better then to believe in the something whether it exists or not because by being positive we being more love and joy into our Earthly lives and increase the chances of a better existence in whatever might be waiting beyond.
Hi Glyn,
Thanks for stopping by, and for your good thoughts. Apologies for the disappearance of your comment. For some reason the spam checker has been overactive lately.
I’m glad you found the article reassuring, and I wish you Godspeed on your spiritual journey!