The Red Pill Movement (MGTOW): Men Waking Up as Loners

In contrast to the “pickup artists” (PUA), some men have “taken the red pill” when their relationships with women went sour and have chosen what would traditionally be called the bachelor route.

The MGTOW symbol

The MGTOW symbol

These are the MGTOW (pronounced MIG-tau): “Men Going Their Own Way.” The singular is MGHOW: “Man Going His Own Way.”

If you spend any time reading MGTOW websites and forums, you’ll find them populated largely by men who have had hellaciously bad experiences in their relationships with women, and who have decided to opt out. Some continue to have one-night stands with women or use the services of prostitutes in order to satisfy their sex drive. Others “go monk” and become celibate. In this community, men actually brag about being virgins.

Needless to say, PUAs despise MGTOW as Dorito-munching, mother’s-basement-dwelling losers who are sad and lonely because they could never get a girl. And MGTOW despise PUAs as preening, hormone-driven pretty boys whose whole life revolves around the women they despise.

And MGTOW as a group do despise women.

These Red Pill men have woken up, not so much as losers, but as loners.

Most of them had their brush with women, got burned—sometimes quite badly—and decided that it’s better not to play with fire.

And if a man wants to be single, that’s certainly his choice. There have been single men throughout the ages. Some of them have done great things.

The problem is not so much in their deciding to become single, but in their intense disdain for and even hatred of women, and in their blaming women for all of their problems as men.

For more on the Red Pill movement (MGTOW), please click here to read on.

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The Red Pill Movement (PUA): Men Waking Up as Animals

Some men—mostly young men—who have “taken the red pill” and woken up to the “reality” that all women are stupid, lazy, blood-sucking whores have decided that the most logical course of action is to turn the tables on women.


By getting as much as they can out of as many women as possible, while giving as little as possible in return.

And what do they want out of women?

Sex, of course.

The main goal of a Red Pill “pickup artist” (PUA) is to have as much sex as possible with young, pretty women while avoiding any obligations or strings attached. These men have woken up as male animals, whose key drive is to mate with healthy, fertile females of their species and reproduce. Except mostly without any actual reproduction.

Here is my nomination for theme song of the Red Pill PUA community (Warning: contains crude sexual innuendo and imagery):

Bloodhound Gang: “The Bad Touch,” 1999.


You and me, baby, ain’t nothin’ but mammals;
So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel.

For more on the Red Pill movement (PUA), please click here to read on.

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The Red Pill Movement (MRA): Men Waking Up as Victims

Within the past couple of centuries millions of women woke up to the fact that they’ve been getting a raw deal. In politics, the workplace, business, finance, and even when it came to their homes and their children, they realized that they were second-class citizens.

And so the feminist movement was born.

A major theme in some parts of the feminist movement is that women are the victims of a patriarchal society—or more simply, victims of men.

The Red PillWithin the past half century, as the feminist movement has gained strength, tens of thousands of men woke up to the fact that they’ve been getting a raw deal. It is overwhelmingly men who die in war, at the workplace, and by homicide and suicide. Men get taken for granted and taken to the cleaners financially by women in the divorce courts, and they lose their children to their ex-wives, too. And men are subject to an invisible epidemic of emotional and physical abuse by women.

And so the men’s rights movement was born.

A major theme in some parts of the men’s rights movement is that men are the victims of an increasingly gynocentric society—or more simply, victims of women.

Welcome to the manosphere, popularly known as the Red Pill movement. This is the world where men are downtrodden, and women and feminism are their oppressors.

And the reality is, there is truth in both positions. Women are victims. Men are victims.

The question is, who and what are they victims of?

For more on the Red Pill movement (MRA), please click here to read on.

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Why does God Harden our Hearts, and Why are We Held Responsible?

Here is a Spiritual Conundrum submitted to Spiritual Insights for Everyday Life by a reader named Steve:

Dear Lee,

Could you help answer this for me?

Romans 9:14–23 speaks of God making vessels of honour and vessels of dishonour. Also there is John 12:37–41 where the scriptures speak about God blinding and hardening people so that they could not believe or understand with their hearts. If that is so then how can they be held to account? How are they responsible? It’s as though their free will is taken away from them. Christ warned the Pharisees about the blasphemy against the Holy Spirit but if God hardened and blinded them then how are they accountable? Could you explain this please? I know that God is fair but I can’t see the fairness in my present understanding.

Kind regards,


Thanks for the great question, Steve! People have been scratching their heads about this for many centuries. Here are some principles that I hope will help:

  1. The Bible often speaks according to the human appearance rather than the divine reality.
  2. This is necessary for the Bible to achieve God’s purpose for it: to save our eternal souls.
  3. God will not allow us to achieve enlightenment that we are unable to sustain.
  4. God’s love and mercy is turned into its opposite in people who are opposed to God.

We’ll expand on each one of these one by one. But first, let’s look at the biblical background.

Clay in the Potter's hands

Clay in the Potter’s hands

For God’s power and our responsibility, please click here to read on.

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What Do Women Really Want?

Hey guys!

Are you looking for some crazy pickup lines guaranteed to get women into bed?

Or for some killer moves in bed that will drive women wild once you get them there?

If so, then you’ve come to the right place!

I’m finally going to give you the straight dope:


Stop wasting your time on stupid clickbait gimmicks that don’t work.

What most women want is for you to get out of their face, because you’re not the man they’re looking for. Buuut, if they’re actually looking for a man, then what they’re looking for is quite simple:

The right man for them

And you’re probably not it. Because there are a lot of different women out there, and they’re looking for a lot of different types of men. But don’t give up. You are the right man for some woman, if you’re willing to put some effort into it.

Meanwhile, here are some of the general categories of what women who are seeking a man really want in a man:

  1. Some women want a man who will protect them, provide for them, and tell them what to do. (Sorry, feminists, but it’s true.)
  2. Some women want a man that they can help, take care of, make a home for, and generally wrap their lives around, while still having a say in things.
  3. Some women want a man with whom they can be full equal partners and move forward together on a shared path in life.

That’s what women are really looking for. And your job is to find the right woman for you—and more importantly, to be the right man for her.

Couple walking together

For more on what women really want, please click here to read on.

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Homosexuality, the Bible, and Christianity: A Summary

My article, “Homosexuality, the Bible, and Christianity” provides an extensive analysis of the key biblical, religious, and social issues relating to homosexuality. That article challenges and refutes the common traditional and conservative Christian view that homosexuality is inherently evil and sinful.

However, it is a long article (over 13,000 words). For a summary of the points in that article, I had previously directed readers to my answer to a question about homosexuality on Christianity StackExchange. I am now re-editing and republishing that answer here to make a shorter version more easily available to my readers. The nine points in this summary cover in much briefer form the major points made in the main article. I recommend that you read that article to get the full picture.

1. Homosexuality is rarely mentioned in the Bible

Homosexuality is rarely mentioned in the Bible. There are only five or six clear references to it in the Old and New Testaments combined. In comparison, the sins forbidden in the Ten Commandments receive major coverage throughout the Bible. The heavy focus on homosexuality among traditional and conservative Christians despite this scant Biblical mention of it suggests that their strong opposition to it comes from a cultural opposition to homosexuality rather than from Biblical sources.

For more homosexuality, the Bible, and Christianity, please click here to read on.

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God: Puppetmaster or Manager of the Universe?

Isaac Newton (1642-1726)

Isaac Newton

Back when Isaac Newton reigned supreme in the world of physics, it was popular among scientists and philosophers to think of the universe as a vast machine grinding along on an inevitable path that could be fully predicted into the distant future if its present state and motion could be fully described.

Then came the 20th century, and people like Max Planck, Niels Bohr, Werner Heisenberg, and Erwin Schrödinger said, “Not so fast! There’s randomness and uncertainty built right into the structure of the universe!” Albert Einstein, who himself had a major part in unseating Newton as the final arbiter of the nature of physical reality, didn’t much like quantum theory precisely because of that element of random chance, prompting him to say famously that God “is not playing at dice.”

What do these new developments in physics say about God? If the universe is not machine-like and deterministic, but has uncertainty built right into it, doesn’t that mean God isn’t in control?

Some scientists and secular philosophers say that our recent discoveries about the nature of the universe show that there cannot be a God because the random, non-deterministic nature of quantum physics is incompatible with an omniscient and omnipotent Creator God.

But as a long-time fan of science, astronomy, and cosmology, my growing conviction is that God purposely designed the physical universe with a certain amount of randomness and freedom. In fact, I now think that a fully deterministic universe, with God as its puppetmaster, would be unable to achieve the goals for which God created it.

God is not a puppetmaster and dictator, controlling every move of every atom in the universe. Rather, God is an architect, manager, and friend to the universe and everything in it.

For more on God, determinism, and free will, please click here to read on.

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How Many Hells did Swedenborg Say there Are?

G. K. Chesterton

G. K. Chesterton


In his essay “The Red Angel,” the British writer and literary critic G.K. Chesterton (1874–1936) wrote:

If you keep bogies and goblins away from children they would make them up for themselves. One small child in the dark can invent more hells than Swedenborg.

What is Chesterton talking about? How many hells did Swedenborg say there are?


G.K. Chesterton is here referring to Swedenborg’s common (for him) and somewhat unusual (in general religious writing) expression “the hells.”

In his voluminous theological writings, Emanuel Swedenborg (1688–1772) spoke both of “hell” in the singular and of “the hells” in the plural, depending on the context and the point he was making. In fact, based on context and subject matter, there are three general answers to the question of how many hells Swedenborg said there were:

  1. One hell
  2. Three hells
  3. Too many hells to count

This arrangement draws on the philosophical and esoteric concept of “macrocosm and microcosm,” which is a fairly common theme in Swedenborg’s theological writings.

For more Swedenborg’s hells, please click here to read on.

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What is the Biblical Basis for a Heavenly Mother?

As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you. (Isaiah 66:13)

As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you. (Isaiah 66:13)

In the Bible there are various mentions of goddesses and female idols worshipped by the pagan nations surrounding the Israelites—which, of course, are rejected as false gods.

By contrast, references to the God of the Israelites (which Christians generally see as the true God) are overwhelmingly male.

Still, there are a few passages scattered throughout the Bible that suggest or attribute to God female characteristics, including some that present God as a mother.

For more on God as Mother, please click here to read on.

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Are Deaths from Natural Disasters an Unavoidable Side-Effect of God’s Creation?

Aftermath of an earthquake

Aftermath of an earthquake

As amazing and beautiful as this physical universe is, it is also filled with almost unimaginable cataclysmic violence—which commonly brings suffering, pain, and death to the living residents of our earth—plant, animal, and human.

Why did God create the universe that way? Couldn’t God have designed things to be a little more peaceful? Or is all that pain, suffering, and death just an unavoidable side-effect of God’s greater goals in creating the universe?

These are some of the tough questions that a regular reader named Rami recently asked as part of an ongoing discussion following up on the article, “How can we have Faith when So Many Bad Things happen to So Many Good People? Part 2.” That installment of a four-part article dealt especially with the pervasive violence, pain, and suffering in the material universe in which we live, and how they can be reconciled with a loving God who wants us to be eternally happy.

You can read Rami’s comments here and here, and also just below in this article. My response contained in this article is a revised and greatly expanded version of my reply to Rami, originally posted as a comment here.

This article does not attempt to answer all of Rami’s questions. You might want to read the above-linked article to get the most out of this one. But I do want to say more about two of the issues Rami raised:

  1. Unavoidable side-effects, and
  2. Deaths due to natural disasters

If these issues trouble you as well, this article may give you some food for thought.

For more on death and side-effects, please click here to read on.

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