The Red Pill Movement (PUA): Men Waking Up as Animals

Some men—mostly young men—who have “taken the red pill” and woken up to the “reality” that all women are stupid, lazy, blood-sucking whores have decided that the most logical course of action is to turn the tables on women.

How?

By getting as much as they can out of as many women as possible, while giving as little as possible in return.

And what do they want out of women?

Sex, of course.

The main goal of a Red Pill “pickup artist” (PUA) is to have as much sex as possible with young, pretty women while avoiding any obligations or strings attached. These men have woken up as male animals, whose key drive is to mate with healthy, fertile females of their species and reproduce. Except mostly without any actual reproduction.

Here is my nomination for theme song of the Red Pill PUA community (Warning: contains crude sexual innuendo and imagery):

Bloodhound Gang: “The Bad Touch,” 1999.

Chorus:

You and me, baby, ain’t nothin’ but mammals;
So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel.

“Pickup artists”

As with the first article in this series, “The Red Pill Movement (MRA): Men Waking Up as Victims,” we won’t spend time describing the “pickup artist” movement. You can get the basic idea from Wikipedia’s article on the seduction community. PUAs are also a strong component of The Red Pill subreddit on Reddit.com.

Perhaps the flagship website of the PUA community is Return of Kings. To get a flavor of how PUAs play the “game” of seducing women, see its article, “11 Fundamental Guidelines For Solid Game.”

It’s not as though everything in the article is wrong. “Red Pillers,” as they call themselves, have noticed and paid attention to some biological, evolutionary, and cultural realities about men and women that much of contemporary Western society prefers not to pay attention to.

However, their particular slant on those realities has led to PUAs being called sexist, misogynistic, racist, homophobic, and so on by mainstream and feminist commentators. And there is truth to those charges as well. But there’s no need rehash all of that here. This is a spiritual blog, not a cultural blog.

And looking at it from a spiritual perspective, what strikes me about the PUA community is that its goals are entirely physical, bodily, and animalistic.

Yes, there is a “psychological game” to be played in seducing women. But for a PUA, the purpose of that “inner game” is to get an attractive woman into bed so that he can fully enjoy her female body and have lots of great sex with her. While the above-linked article does make some sensible points and suggestions (while dishing up some serious Red Pill dogma), this is the core of its advice:

Your mind-set should be focused on having fun and having sex. That’s it. I will say it again: having fun and having sex.

Everything else in the article—in fact, in the entire PUA community—revolves around this goal: having fun and having sex.

It’s all about physical pleasure

The goal is definitely not to make any kind of intellectual or emotional connection with women. Consider another article on Return of Kings: “Young Girls Are Better Than Older Women.” Right off the bat it (rather weakly) brushes off the idea an older woman has gained some maturity and conversational ability that might make her more interesting to a real, grown-up man compared to a younger woman.

No, the article assures us, it’s all about the bodies of young girls (yes, “girls” seems to be the preferred term) being “tighter, firmer, and aesthetically more pleasurable to look at.” The author waxes rhapsodic about various female body parts and how much better they are in young girls than in older women. (Oh, and an “older woman” means one who’s heading out of her twenties and into her thirties.)

About as “psychological” as the article gets is to say that young girls have much more “innocence and energy” than older women. And the examples quickly get to—you guessed it!—how much easier it is to get young girls into bed (that’s apparently the “innocence” part) and how much more energy a young girl has for sex, sex, and more sex within hours of getting picked up. In comparison, an older woman might insist on waiting until the third date <gasp!> to have sex.

Another article, “The 15 Magical Years of Womanhood,” provides a detailed, chronological accounting of exactly how and why a woman’s worth is limited to when she is fifteen to thirty years old. The article laments that after those “magical years” a woman’s physical beauty quickly fades, and she becomes as desirable as “a used car with the odometer rolled back.” Her only hope is that she may swindle some “blue-pill beta” man (that’s a terrible insult in the Red Pill community) into a doomed “marriage trap” with her.

Why is a woman’s worth measured by her physical beauty or lack thereof?

In reality, it has nothing to do with the women themselves. It has to do with the fact that these Red Pill PUAs are totally focused on physical things. The worth of a woman is in her physical attractiveness. The pleasure of interacting with a woman is all about getting her into bed so that you can enjoy her body and give her a good poke. Being friends with a woman is strictly for blue-pill losers.

And, the worth of a man is also entirely tied up in his physical health and his sexual prowess. Any man that is not having sex with one beautiful young “girl” after another is a loser.

Because life is all about the physical pleasure of physical sex with beautiful women.

(Which is why, for most of these men, their life of enjoyment ends somewhere in their thirties or forties, when they themselves become “a used car with the odometer rolled back.”)

Human male animals

What, really, is the difference between these human males and the males of any other species?

It is true that physically, we humans “ain’t nothin’ but mammals.”

What distinguishes us from the lower animals is our higher intelligence, both intellectual and emotional. We are able to think and love in ways that lower animals can’t. In particular, we are able to think about God and about spiritual and moral life, and pursue spiritual loves and goals, which no other animal on this earth can do.

And yet, it is precisely the things that distinguish us from the lower animals that PUAs consider worthless when it comes to interactions with women. If you could lobotomize a woman in such a way that she retained her “innocence and energy,” she would be just as good as a woman who has a fully functional brain. Her body would be just as “tight, firm, and aesthetically pleasurable to look at,” and it would be just as fun to have sex with her.

Really, it’s just mating. It’s just “doing it like they do on the Discovery Channel.”

Failed males

Except there’s a crucial difference.

For the mammals “doing it” on the Discovery Channel, there is a purpose to all that sex. It’s how the species reproduces itself. Both the males and the females are passing on their genes while perpetuating the species.

But for a PUA, getting a woman pregnant is a problem. In fact, the whole idea is to have sex with a woman without getting her pregnant, and thus without creating any strings that would attach the “alpha male” to her and her babies, and instantly transform him into a beta loser.

But in nature, real alpha males are alpha in order to make sure that it’s their genes, and not their competitors’ genes, that get passed on to the next generation. From an evolutionary perspective, the strongest males do the most mating in order to maintain and improve the health and fitness of the species.

In nature, being alpha has a purpose not only for the males, but for the females—who also want their genes to survive and thrive through their offspring—and for the species as a whole.

Meanwhile, the ideal PUA would sleep with hundreds of women without getting a single one of them pregnant. This puts the lie to their ubiquitous use of the word “stud” to describe the ideal PUA. A stud is a male animal kept for breeding purposes.

For all of their reliance on evolutionary theory to support the idea that men should be dominant and women should make themselves sexually available to these dominant men, PUAs have missed the whole evolutionary point of sex. In nature sex is all about having babies.

In evolution-driven nature, these PUA “alphas” would be failed males.

Although they claim to be very successful at having lots of sex with lots of women, they almost always fail to get those women pregnant. (Of course, this is possible only because of the recent arrival of effective birth control. But that’s a whole subject unto itself.)

By evolutionary standards it is precisely the “blue-pill betas” that PUAs despise—those men who marry women, father children, and raise them to adulthood—who are the successful males. It is their genes that will be passed on to the next generation and perpetuate the species.

The irony is that from the perspective of nature, biology, and evolution—which supposedly provide them with their intellectual framework—these PUAs do not become alpha and successful as men until they abandon their “seduction community” and do what they’ve been avoiding like the plague and berating other men for doing: settle down with a woman and raise a family.

A man’s evolutionary role

It could be argued that even in nature, if we take birth control out of the equation, an alpha male should still have sex with as many young, healthy, fertile women as possible and father as many babies as possible.

But in reality it doesn’t work that way.

It does a no good for a man to father dozens of babies if they all die in childhood. For him to successfully pass on his genes, his offspring must reach sexual maturity and continue passing those genes on to future generations. And compared to most other species, human babies take a long time to reach sexual maturity.

What this means is that for a human male to be successful from an evolutionary standpoint, he must not just father children, but stick around and make sure they reach adulthood. This forms the evolutionary basis of the human family and tribe.

It’s no accident that humans developed societies in which men and women form strong bonds that last for decades. It’s no accident that there is a tendency toward monogamy among humans. Lifetime pairings are a very successful strategy for raising human infants to adulthood. The man who provides for and protects his wife (or wives) and children will be more successful from an evolutionary standpoint than the man who “pumps and dumps” women—to use Red Pill slang.

Did you know that when new male lions take over a pride of females, they will often kill any cubs fathered by the previous alpha males? They’re interested in perpetuating their own genes, not another male’s genes.

Similarly, among humans, evolution dictates that the most motivated male in providing for and protecting children until they reach adulthood is the children’s own biological father. Impregnating lots of women and abandoning them is not a good evolutionary strategy for human males.

The real point of alpha manhood

So although evolution may have given these so-called “alpha males” in the PUA community their sex drive, these men have robbed that sex drive of its evolutionary meaning and purpose. They have abandoned the natural role of a real alpha male.

A real alpha male doesn’t just “have fun and have sex.” In nature, such a male would be a total failure.

A real alpha male fathers children, and then sticks with them right on through until they reach successful adulthood. And the best way to do that is to form a stable relationship with their mother.

Of course, there is more to human beings than nature, biology, and evolution. Sex and marriage are not only about having children. They also have meaning and purpose on a social and spiritual level. For more about that, we invite you to read the articles linked below.

For the third and final article in this series, see: “The Red Pill Movement (MGTOW): Men Waking Up as Loners.”

For further reading:

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Lee Woofenden is an ordained minister, writer, editor, translator, and teacher. He enjoys taking spiritual insights from the Bible and the writings of Emanuel Swedenborg and putting them into plain English as guides for everyday life.

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19 comments on “The Red Pill Movement (PUA): Men Waking Up as Animals
  1. Rohan Pereira says:

    Hi Lee

    While going through Swedenborg’s writings (I having purchased all of his works on my kindle), I came across his perspective on evolution.

    According to it, Man is the goal of evolution. God being the Divine Man is the perfect Man (not male or female but both), though he is not a product of evolution. Therefore some humans are closer to animal homosapiens and some closer to Divine Man. So Swedenborg alludes that some men are indeed primarily driven by carnal animal desires that are observable in the animal kingdom (e.g. like the Lions in the above post). Hence such men are not concerned by the social consequences of rape or promiscuity.

    I also read a very interesting part on hereditary. Apparently some of the evil desires of the parent is passed over to the child and is awakened gradually as they come off age. Therefore the demonic desires of a parent affect their children. I would believe that many of those in the PUA community are affected by such demonic inheritances.

    I do rememeber that when I was in university, a friend of mine was knee deep into the philosophy of the PUA community. It was only later on that I found out that his father had abandoned him as a baby (his father was a short-term ‘tourist’ on holiday in his mother’s native country). Swedenborg suggests that the internals of the father are passed on to the child whilsts the externals are of the mother.

    Not suggesting that all in the PUA community come from such backgrounds but that the PUA community is infested with the demonic in some way or form.

    • Lee says:

      Hi Rohan,

      Thanks for your thoughts. Glad to hear you’re digging into some Swedenborg. I would be curious to know which particular books and sections you’ve been reading about evolution and heredity.

      About evolution, Darwin didn’t come along until the next century, so Swedenborg did not have the concept of the evolution of the species in his scientific quiver. His belief—common in those pre-Darwin days—was that God created the species directly by spontaneous generation, giving them the ability to reproduce themselves from then on. However, his views on spiritual rebirth as a lifelong process, and of the spiritual development of humanity as happening over periods of ages, made it fairly easy for the more liberal followers of Swedenborg, at least, to adopt biological evolutionary theory as compatible with Swedenborg’s theology.

      A couple of points about your comments on evolution and different human beings.

      First, it’s important to understand that in terms of evolution, though different races and individuals may be different, no race or individual is inherently less likely to go to heaven than any other. So there is no evolutionary “predestination” of some individuals or races to hell, and others to heaven, even if some individuals, and even some cultural groups, may face more accretion of human evil than others, and therefore may have a harder life individually or as a culture. For more on this, see my article, “Can Gang Members Go to Heaven? (Is Life Fair?)

      Second, in Swedenborg’s view, the differences in the various races, between the genders, and between different individuals is best seen, not from a framework of one being “better” than another, but rather from a framework of strength in diversity. He saw every individual and culture as having a unique, important, and different role in making up the overall community of humanity, which he called the “Universal Human” (“Grand Man,” in the traditional translations of his works). So any use of evolutionary theory to paint one race, gender, group, or individual as “better” than another would not be particularly useful from the standpoint of Swedenborg’s theology. For example, Africans were commonly seen by white Europeans as a race inferior to their own. But Swedenborg considered Africans to have an especially “heavenly” character, and to contribute something to the overall community of heaven that was different, and very valuable, compared to what white Europeans such as himself could contribute to it.

      Of course, Swedenborg did have his flaws and prejudices. He was not the ideal modern politically correct theorist transported back into the 18th century. But his theology and his perspective on humanity does provide a solid basis for those today who wish to value the various races, genders, cultures, and so on for their unique contributions to society without attempting to erase all the differences between them. In effect Swedenborg said, with the French, vive la différence!

    • Lee says:

      Hi Rohan,

      About heredity, it is likewise important to understand that Swedenborg lived in the century before Mendel came along and laid the foundations for the modern science of genetics. In Swedenborg’s day, inheritance of acquired traits from parents was still a very live theory. And Swedenborg certainly seems to have subscribed to that idea.

      However, this was also long before DNA and genes were discovered, so the very idea of “heredity” and how it was transmitted was much more fluid. My general sense is that when Swedenborg speaks of “heredity” it is not exactly “genetics” as we understand it today, but a broader concept of “traits passed down from parents to children.” And that could include much of what we today would call early childhood environment.

      I say this as a caution not to make too strong a connection between what we today think of as heredity and genetics, and what Swedenborg meant when he wrote about traits inherited from parents.

      Having said that, I certainly do agree with you that many people, including probably many men in the Red Pill PUA community, find themselves where they are because of “heredity” in that broader sense—meaning because of the influence of their parents and family, whether they were physically present or absent. An absent father does have an influence on his biological children by his very absence, but also in other more subtle ways such as his influence, and the influence of the circumstances of the conception, on the child’s mother. So the overall point that acquired psychological traits are passed down from parents to children remains quite valid even if today’s genetic theory rejects the transmission of acquired traits.

      What this doesn’t mean is that those men who got the short end of the “hereditary” stick are doomed to the demonic. Rather, it means that they have some serious struggles with a particular type of demonic influence that other men who didn’t “acquire” those particular “hereditary” traits don’t have to deal with so much. We all have our particular struggles. So once again, these hereditary influences don’t mean that any particular person is spiritually, psychologically, or socially doomed. Rather, it means that they have some serious work to do.

      My sense is that most of these PUAs are still fairly young: in their twenties or thirties. That is a time of life when most people, including most men, are struggling to overcome any bad start they may have gotten, and to get themselves established as self-responsible and reasonably stable adults. And that’s a tough job.

      The twenties and thirties are also a time when the ol’ hormones are still churning pretty strong, so that a man’s brain commonly resides in a part of his anatomy that is at some distance from his cranium. I suspect that when many of these PUAs move on into their forties and fifties, they’ll mature a bit, and start to see things a little differently than when they were young testosterone-driven guys. It’s all part of our process of psychological and spiritual maturation.

  2. Adam says:

    Oh boy I’m feeling something. Something really is stirring. It’s similar to anger. But there is some sorrow also. My jaw is shaking and my eyes are a little wet. I had to look it up to make sure. The first hit takes me to a collection of Swedenborg’s writings describing anger and zeal. And the difference is awesome.

    Though closely related in outward expression, anger comes from evil and involves a desire to harm and punish, think of revenge. Zeal comes from love and involves a desire to protect and amend, think of justice. I definitely have some growth ahead of me, since I’m still rooting for the angels to go “weapons free” on this issue. Coincidentally that term popped into my head on today of all days, Memorial Day in the U.S.

    Thankfully, searching for and understanding what I was feeling has brought a peace over me that 10 minutes ago would have been unfathomable. Thank the Lord. Now I can type.

    There is nothing that sets me on fire like innocence in peril. The topic of this article was bad enough. What got me riled up was reading the comments praising the advice at the end of the linked pro-PUA articles. Truly sickening. I keep feeling like I might let out an involuntary primal roar. Akin to a surprise barf when you have the stomach flu.

    Hard not to digress into pure anger.

    I do not think these PUA’s are men. They are selfish immature bipedal creatures who are trying to prey on innocence as young as 15 years old. And to me this is one of the most wicked things. I can’t consider anything else to be worse right now… other than shifting the victims age to a decade younger, or somehow adding Hitler to the equation.

    These creatures do not represent us men. No no no. I knew this phenomenon was bad but didn’t know that they had organized, that there was a population of people that loved this selfishness to the extent that they were teaching it, promoting it, and injecting such narrow mindedness that any attempt to disagree is met with a McCarthyesque bullying aimed at anyone that doesn’t see the light. Yeah, one of the authors of an article closed his comment on a seperate thread by reminding his followers to “be the light.” After reading that – all the angels I like to surround myself with had to take 5. That was Quintus Curtius. What a lovely righteousness he must feel in order to have chosen that name.

    I looked up Swedenborg’s conversations with Luther after reading the faith alone article (maybe part 4 or 5?). So it’s on my mind and can’t help but wonder what happens to people being taught bad behaviors.

    Luther is quoted as saying in True Christian Religion 796 [4] “…I do not wonder, therefore, that I erred; but I do wonder that the folly of one man should make so many others foolish…” and then in [5] Swedenborg explains (and I’m doing my best to summarize here) that Luther is able to start rejecting his wrong ways because he had charity in his heart at a young age, before he went with faith alone. ES goes on to write about Luther’s followers: “It is different with those who, in their youth, confirm themselves against the spiritual character of charity”

    Can you draw a comparison between the rejection of charity above and the fate of those who blindly follow out of selfish desires, especially adopting these evils during their impressionable years?

    For those of us who need to take a little breath, and lighten it up, I’ll quote the best thing Obi-wan Kenobi ever said “Who’s the more foolish? The fool or the fool who follows him?”

    Regardless of the fate of the fools, reading about zeal definitely helps temper my… temper. As does my trust in the Lord that, once in hell, He will only allow people like that to victimize each other with their little… meatless… wieners…

    -Adam

    • Lee says:

      Hi Adam,

      Thanks for your thoughts.

      When I first decided to write an article on the Red Pill movement (originally it was going to be only one), I planned to be much harsher on it. I amused myself by making up satirical alternative wordings for the acronyms of the different segments of the Red pill movement. But as I let things percolate in my mind, I had to remind myself that “Red Pillers are people, too.” So I took the more measured approach that you see in the articles. Many of these men have suffered hard things. A blanket condemnation does no good.

      Of the three main segments of the Red Pill Movement (MRA, PUA, & MGTOW), I do find the PUAs most distasteful. But most of them, I think, are just young, testosterone-driven men who are still idiots, just as I was an idiot when I was that age. (I’m not saying I’m not still an idiot, but I think I’m a slightly less idiotic idiot now that I’m in my mid-fifties.) I think most of these PUAs will eventually grow out of it when their testosterone levels decline a bit and their brain begins its scheduled migration to its proper place in their anatomy.

      Another way of saying this, as I said in the previous article, is that we all start out stupid and selfish, and our job here on earth is to grow out of it. Some of us take longer to do that than others. If a man is fifty or sixty and still thinks like these “seduction community” guys, he’s seriously slow in the growing up department. Really, young men still stuck in that mindset should start growing out of it some time in their thirties, or in their early forties at the latest. (We do have a rather slowed-down growing-up process in today’s Western society.)

      As long as we’re still here on earth, we are still in process. Though these PUA guys are currently mired in some seriously warped animalistic muck, the end of their stories hasn’t yet been written.

      This is an indirect way of answering your question (if it wasn’t meant just to be rhetorical) about what will happen to those who are taught bad behaviors in their young and impressionable years. That certainly does to a lot of damage to a person’s life. But it is not irreparable, nor is it an eternal death sentence. God keeps working on every one of us throughout our lifetime, seeking to bring some good even out of the evil events and circumstances of our lives.

      The acid test is what these men actually do with their lives in the long run. Do they devote themselves to some sort of work that provides some benefit to their fellow human beings? If so, there is a platform for spiritual reform and rebirth even if their heads are filled with hateful and fallacious ideas about women and about contemporary society. “You will know them by their fruits” (Matthew 7:20).

      Further, the men’s rights movement is not entirely without merit. Along with their rather extreme and inflexible dogmas about women and feminism, they are also tackling some real social wrongs and injustices that should be righted. If they can, over time, leave behind the bitterness and think more about the welfare of the human community as a whole, both men and women, while they pursue justice in their particular causes, then the movement can still make a positive contribution to society in the long run. Whether or not it does is in its members’ own hands.

  3. larryzb says:

    Rather ironic isn’t it? Today, there are many young females of the species who behave the same as these men (you discuss above) behave. The whole “hook-up” culture is made up of such young adult males and females. Perhaps, that is one of the bitter fruits of feminism – that it has encouraged women to adopt some of the worst traits of men.

    • Lee says:

      Hi larryzb,

      As I said in the first article in the series, women can be just as bad as men.

      There’s a mythical idea that’s been around since long before the feminist movement that women are somehow morally and spiritually superior to men: more innocent, less tainted, and much more likely to make it through those Pearly Gates.

      But that’s a myth.

      We’re all human beings, both women and men. We’re all subject to corruption. The fact that women’s corruption in general tends to be different than men’s corruption doesn’t change the fact that both women and men start out in life self-absorbed and thinking that the world revolves around themselves. This may manifest itself as major pride and ego, including the idealistic notion that if the world just worked the way I think it should, all our problems would go away. Or it may manifest itself as a feeling that the world is there to serve my needs, or even as a feeling that the entire world is conspiring against me. Whichever way it shows itself, the common thread is thinking I am in some way the center of the universe.

      That’s something we have to grow out of. And it isn’t easy to grow out of it. And, unlike growing up physically, growing up emotionally and spiritually requires us to make a conscious choice to grow out of it.

      The simple fact of the matter is that young men and young women are psychologically immature. And for many of them, as covered in the above article with regard to men, this means behaving more or less like animals with a veneer of higher human virtues laminated onto the surface to cover over the poor quality of the wood underneath.

      And women are generally better at hiding their inherent character flaws than men. Men’s flaws tend to be overt and easily seen, whereas women’s tend to be more subtle and harder to discern. And yet, both can be devastating.

      Men tend to fight “clean” (but will break that code if it serves their purposes), while women tend to fight “dirty.” This can be seen from an early age in schoolyard fights, where boys will almost always stick to the code of fists only and only above the belt, whereas girls will kick, bite, scratch, pull hair, go for the groin, and use every other weapon and means at their disposal to hurt and incapacitate their opponent. When a woman’s claws come out—physically or psychologically—you do not want to be on the receiving end.

      So yes, women can be just as animalistic and just as morally corrupt as men. The fact that they tend to express their spiritually immature and even evil character in a different way than men does not change that fact.

    • Lee says:

      Hi larryzb,

      About feminism, I agree that there have been some negative effects, such as condoning casual and promiscuous sex. However, I suspect that most of these “evils” are more in the nature of letting out something that was formerly suppressed rather than actually creating an evil thing. People throughout history would have engaged in casual and promiscuous sex if there hadn’t been harsh legal and social penalties for doing so. And many did so anyway, attempting to fly under the radar.

      What’s happening today, I believe, is that legal and social strictures against many old human evils are being relaxed so that we can see what’s actually there.

      And that’s both good and bad.

      It’s bad, of course, because it leads to social chaos, in which norms of behavior that had formerly kept society on track break down, and people don’t know how to behave. And of course, many people get hurt in the process.

      But it’s good because when evils are suppressed, it’s hard to see them and deal with them at their root. Having a heavy and harsh code of laws does impose social discipline on people, but it’s largely external. Internally, the people who live under those harsh laws are rarely transformed from the inside out because their internal evils are never allowed to surface.

      When the legal and social suppression is relaxed, those inner evils come out and show themselves. And at that point we can face and deal with their inner causes rather than just desperately keeping the lid on Pandora’s Box while those evils writhe away within.

      My belief is that the reason the heavy laws that formerly imposed an external appearance of humanity and civility are now being relaxed is that we have entered a new era of human spiritual development in which we are ready to face and overcome many of the deeper evils of the human heart, mind, and spirit. And for us to face and overcome them, we must first see them.

      So although it is uncomfortable to live in a time of relaxed laws and standards, and there is much social chaos as a result of it, I still believe that it is a good and necessary part of our spiritual journey as a race. And that would be a fine topic for a whole new article!

      Back to feminism, though I don’t agree with all of its tenets, I do believe that both women and men should be free to live as they wish, as long as what they wish is not to harm and destroy their fellow human beings. I do not believe there should be laws and social strictures preventing women (or men) from doing certain jobs, wearing certain clothes, and behaving in certain (non-aggressive, non-destructive) ways. These things should be a personal choice, not something society imposes.

      However, unlike some parts of the feminist movement, I believe that the long-term result of this personal and social freedom for both men and women will be to bring into greater light the real differences between men and women—not just physical, but psychological and spiritual as well—and lead toward a society where those differences can fully express themselves in a way that makes us stronger rather than weaker.

      One of the biggest differences is that men and women will be different, not because society says they must be, but simply because they are different, and they are acting freely from their real differences.

      So although, once again, there is a great deal of chaos due to the changes brought about by the feminist movement, I continue to believe that when the dust settles, feminism will have brought about major positive effects on society, even if those effects aren’t all exactly what some elements of the feminist movement intended.

      And no, I don’t think this means that men and women will all just revert back to their traditional gender roles. That would be a real waste of a whole era of social change and chaos!

      • larryzb says:

        Lee,

        I cannot say that I share your optimism here.

        “So although, once again, there is a great deal of chaos due to the changes brought about by the feminist movement, I continue to believe that when the dust settles, feminism will have brought about major positive effects on society, even if those effects aren’t all exactly what some elements of the feminist movement intended.”

        Thus, things will get worse before they get better, that is if things do eventually get better. Let’s not gloss over the fact that man has a fallen or flawed nature. Revolution is costly and does not always bring about improvements to society (just look at the hellish 20th century).

        What we need to focus on is what is both moral and what works. Single parent households without both parents in the home have not worked out very well. Out of wedlock births have condemned children to poverty as well. Tens of millions of abortions in the US – how do you or I or anyone else calculate that human toll? Lee, let’s not deceive ourselves here. Humans have a great ability for doing harm to themselves and to others. We ought tread carefully here and be sure we work to counter destructive behaviors and moral outrages around us today.

        • Lee says:

          Hi larryzb,

          Don’t get me wrong. There are still great evils in human life and society, and they’re not going to be overcome easily. What’s different now is that for many of them, we’re beginning to see them and their effects clearly for the first time as they break out into society and we reap their bitter fruit.

          It is, I believe, the fact that human evil and dysfunction is destructive in its effects that will finally cause us to clearly identify them as evils, and do the hard and painful work of rooting them out.

      • mikekto says:

        Second wave feminism didn’t start the sexual revolution. It started in the 40’s. If you look at the divorces it was rising and the number of single mothers. People were simply not honest about it because it was a shameful. So much for social engineering it already began before the 1960’s but we have conspiracy nut jobs who claim the elites engineering people do to certain things.

        • Lee says:

          Hi mikekto,

          Yes, the cultural revolution of the 60s was simply the surfacing of forces and changes that had been in play under the surface for several decades, if not several centuries. Sooner or later, hidden trends and movements come to the surface where we can see them. It’s like traveling through a long tunnel and then suddenly coming out the other end.

          And yeah, conspiracy nut jobs are gonna be . . . nuts. 😛 I don’t think the elites are smart enough to figure all these things out and orchestrate them. Mostly, they’re just out for money and power. And when people are motivated primarily by money and power, bad things happen systemically even if that wasn’t what the rich and powerful elites intended.

    • mikekto says:

      The hookup culture with women is due to single mothers raising them. It’s been proven single moms was likely to raise daughters that will be sexually promiscuous.

      http://www.doctorwendyoconnor.com/the-impact-of-sexually-promiscuous-mothers/

      • Lee says:

        Hi mikekto,

        Thanks for the link. However, the title of the article is, “The Impact of Sexually Promiscuous Mothers,” not “The Impact of Single Mothers.” If a mother is single, but not sexually promiscuous, she is not modeling sexually promiscuous behavior to her daughters. It’s when single mothers are sleeping with one man after another that they model that to their daughters.

        The linked article beats around the bush and avoids saying straight out what needs to be said.

        Here’s what needs to be said:

        If a single mother wants not to model sexual promiscuity to her daughter, she shouldn’t have sex with one man after another. And she certainly shouldn’t bring one man after another home to her bed. Whatever her daughter sees her doing, that’s what her daughter is going to think of as normal. Modeling good behavior for her daughter means either remaining single or finding a good man, sticking with him, and ideally marrying him.

        Going out on dates with different men looking for the right one isn’t the issue. Almost every person, teenage or adult, who is single but wants to be in a relationship does that. But if “dating” means “sleeping with,” that’s what’s going to be modeled—like it or not. You can’t behave one way and tell your children to behave a different way. If a mother (or father) sleeps around, s/he can’t turn around and tell the kids not to.

  4. kratos75 says:

    One of the most disgusting examples of the entire Red Pill PUA community in WordPress is the blog from Artisanal Toad

    I had a run in with him and I tried to correct his blatant mishandling of scripture, especially Genesis 3:16, but to no avail….they are blind, sick and disgusting men who will label me and this blog from Lee as weak beta males, but the truth of the matter is, it is him and all his deluded followers who are the fools

    I find your balanced approach more in line with scripture, Lee

    • Lee says:

      Hi kratos75,

      Thanks for stopping by, and for your comment. I won’t get into the middle of your conflict with Artisanal Toad, whom I know nothing about. But it is very true that like true believers in any movement, men in the Red Pill movement can be highly dogmatic and highly insulting to anyone who doesn’t accept their particular dogma.

      Beyond having clear principles to think and live by, the key to dealing with their slings and arrows is to realize that it doesn’t matter what they think of you. Their attacks and insults are most likely more about them than they are about you. They have to uphold a particular view of everyone who doesn’t agree with them, not from moral strength or spiritual breadth of understanding, but in order to maintain their own sense of self and integrity—which, underneath it all, tends to be quite shaky. That’s why they’re in a radical, dogmatic movement in the first place.

      So yes, I’m well aware of what they’ll say about me and my blog. I’ve already summarily deleted comments from a Red Pill man on one of my earlier articles as he spewed the standard Red Pill insults at me for not agreeing with standard Red Pill dogma. It was actually very funny how he managed to pack just about every insult in the Red Pill vocabulary into a single sentence. Turn the crank, and out it comes!

      If you’re going to say anything important at all, people are going to attack and insult you. But if you’re confident in your knowledge, beliefs, and principles, you can let it roll off your back. Sure, it’s unpleasant. But it’s their unpleasantness, not yours.

      Meanwhile, I’m glad you’re enjoying the more balanced approach that we take here on this blog.

      • kratos75 says:

        Hey thanks for your understanding

        I related so much to what you are saying about Red Pill men and how nasty they can get if you disagree with them

        I look forward to more of your comments in your blog here

  5. Foster says:

    This PUA philosophy seems demonic, selfish and spiritually self destructive. that type of lifestyle can’t be good for the long term health of there souls, and bodies (with the risk of contracting STD’s.) we should pray for these men and woman that live this lifestyle.

    • Lee says:

      Hi Foster,

      Agreed. The hope is that most of them will grow out of it. It’s a dead-end philosophy that can’t last more than a decade or two at most in the life of a man. And then what?

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