Some men—mostly young men—who have “taken the red pill” and woken up to the “reality” that all women are stupid, lazy, blood-sucking whores have decided that the most logical course of action is to turn the tables on women.
By getting as much as they can out of as many women as possible, while giving as little as possible in return.
And what do they want out of women?
Sex, of course.
The main goal of a Red Pill “pickup artist” (PUA) is to have as much sex as possible with young, pretty women while avoiding any obligations or strings attached. These men have woken up as male animals, whose key drive is to mate with healthy, fertile females of their species and reproduce. Except mostly without any actual reproduction.
Here is my nomination for theme song of the Red Pill PUA community (Warning: contains crude sexual innuendo and imagery):
You and me, baby, ain’t nothin’ but mammals;
So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel.
As with the first article in this series, “The Red Pill Movement (MRA): Men Waking Up as Victims,” we won’t spend time describing the “pickup artist” movement. You can get the basic idea from Wikipedia’s article on the seduction community. PUAs are also a strong component of The Red Pill subreddit on Reddit.com.
It’s not as though everything in the article is wrong. “Red Pillers,” as they call themselves, have noticed and paid attention to some biological, evolutionary, and cultural realities about men and women that much of contemporary Western society prefers not to pay attention to.
However, their particular slant on those realities has led to PUAs being called sexist, misogynistic, racist, homophobic, and so on by mainstream and feminist commentators. And there is truth to those charges as well. But there’s no need rehash all of that here. This is a spiritual blog, not a cultural blog.
And looking at it from a spiritual perspective, what strikes me about the PUA community is that its goals are entirely physical, bodily, and animalistic.
Yes, there is a “psychological game” to be played in seducing women. But for a PUA, the purpose of that “inner game” is to get an attractive woman into bed so that he can fully enjoy her female body and have lots of great sex with her. While the above-linked article does make some sensible points and suggestions (while dishing up some serious Red Pill dogma), this is the core of its advice:
Your mind-set should be focused on having fun and having sex. That’s it. I will say it again: having fun and having sex.
Everything else in the article—in fact, in the entire PUA community—revolves around this goal: having fun and having sex.
It’s all about physical pleasure
The goal is definitely not to make any kind of intellectual or emotional connection with women. Consider another article on Return of Kings: “Young Girls Are Better Than Older Women.” Right off the bat it (rather weakly) brushes off the idea an older woman has gained some maturity and conversational ability that might make her more interesting to a real, grown-up man compared to a younger woman.
No, the article assures us, it’s all about the bodies of young girls (yes, “girls” seems to be the preferred term) being “tighter, firmer, and aesthetically more pleasurable to look at.” The author waxes rhapsodic about various female body parts and how much better they are in young girls than in older women. (Oh, and an “older woman” means one who’s heading out of her twenties and into her thirties.)
About as “psychological” as the article gets is to say that young girls have much more “innocence and energy” than older women. And the examples quickly get to—you guessed it!—how much easier it is to get young girls into bed (that’s apparently the “innocence” part) and how much more energy a young girl has for sex, sex, and more sex within hours of getting picked up. In comparison, an older woman might insist on waiting until the third date <gasp!> to have sex.
Another article, “The 15 Magical Years of Womanhood,” provides a detailed, chronological accounting of exactly how and why a woman’s worth is limited to when she is fifteen to thirty years old. The article laments that after those “magical years” a woman’s physical beauty quickly fades, and she becomes as desirable as “a used car with the odometer rolled back.” Her only hope is that she may swindle some “blue-pill beta” man (that’s a terrible insult in the Red Pill community) into a doomed “marriage trap” with her.
Why is a woman’s worth measured by her physical beauty or lack thereof?
In reality, it has nothing to do with the women themselves. It has to do with the fact that these Red Pill PUAs are totally focused on physical things. The worth of a woman is in her physical attractiveness. The pleasure of interacting with a woman is all about getting her into bed so that you can enjoy her body and give her a good poke. Being friends with a woman is strictly for blue-pill losers.
And, the worth of a man is also entirely tied up in his physical health and his sexual prowess. Any man that is not having sex with one beautiful young “girl” after another is a loser.
Because life is all about the physical pleasure of physical sex with beautiful women.
(Which is why, for most of these men, their life of enjoyment ends somewhere in their thirties or forties, when they themselves become “a used car with the odometer rolled back.”)
Human male animals
What, really, is the difference between these human males and the males of any other species?
It is true that physically, we humans “ain’t nothin’ but mammals.”
What distinguishes us from the lower animals is our higher intelligence, both intellectual and emotional. We are able to think and love in ways that lower animals can’t. In particular, we are able to think about God and about spiritual and moral life, and pursue spiritual loves and goals, which no other animal on this earth can do.
And yet, it is precisely the things that distinguish us from the lower animals that PUAs consider worthless when it comes to interactions with women. If you could lobotomize a woman in such a way that she retained her “innocence and energy,” she would be just as good as a woman who has a fully functional brain. Her body would be just as “tight, firm, and aesthetically pleasurable to look at,” and it would be just as fun to have sex with her.
Really, it’s just mating. It’s just “doing it like they do on the Discovery Channel.”
Except there’s a crucial difference.
For the mammals “doing it” on the Discovery Channel, there is a purpose to all that sex. It’s how the species reproduces itself. Both the males and the females are passing on their genes while perpetuating the species.
But for a PUA, getting a woman pregnant is a problem. In fact, the whole idea is to have sex with a woman without getting her pregnant, and thus without creating any strings that would attach the “alpha male” to her and her babies, and instantly transform him into a beta loser.
But in nature, real alpha males are alpha in order to make sure that it’s their genes, and not their competitors’ genes, that get passed on to the next generation. From an evolutionary perspective, the strongest males do the most mating in order to maintain and improve the health and fitness of the species.
In nature, being alpha has a purpose not only for the males, but for the females—who also want their genes to survive and thrive through their offspring—and for the species as a whole.
Meanwhile, the ideal PUA would sleep with hundreds of women without getting a single one of them pregnant. This puts the lie to their ubiquitous use of the word “stud” to describe the ideal PUA. A stud is a male animal kept for breeding purposes.
For all of their reliance on evolutionary theory to support the idea that men should be dominant and women should make themselves sexually available to these dominant men, PUAs have missed the whole evolutionary point of sex. In nature sex is all about having babies.
In evolution-driven nature, these PUA “alphas” would be failed males.
Although they claim to be very successful at having lots of sex with lots of women, they almost always fail to get those women pregnant. (Of course, this is possible only because of the recent arrival of effective birth control. But that’s a whole subject unto itself.)
By evolutionary standards it is precisely the “blue-pill betas” that PUAs despise—those men who marry women, father children, and raise them to adulthood—who are the successful males. It is their genes that will be passed on to the next generation and perpetuate the species.
The irony is that from the perspective of nature, biology, and evolution—which supposedly provide them with their intellectual framework—these PUAs do not become alpha and successful as men until they abandon their “seduction community” and do what they’ve been avoiding like the plague and berating other men for doing: settle down with a woman and raise a family.
A man’s evolutionary role
It could be argued that even in nature, if we take birth control out of the equation, an alpha male should still have sex with as many young, healthy, fertile women as possible and father as many babies as possible.
But in reality it doesn’t work that way.
It does a no good for a man to father dozens of babies if they all die in childhood. For him to successfully pass on his genes, his offspring must reach sexual maturity and continue passing those genes on to future generations. And compared to most other species, human babies take a long time to reach sexual maturity.
What this means is that for a human male to be successful from an evolutionary standpoint, he must not just father children, but stick around and make sure they reach adulthood. This forms the evolutionary basis of the human family and tribe.
It’s no accident that humans developed societies in which men and women form strong bonds that last for decades. It’s no accident that there is a tendency toward monogamy among humans. Lifetime pairings are a very successful strategy for raising human infants to adulthood. The man who provides for and protects his wife (or wives) and children will be more successful from an evolutionary standpoint than the man who “pumps and dumps” women—to use Red Pill slang.
Did you know that when new male lions take over a pride of females, they will often kill any cubs fathered by the previous alpha males? They’re interested in perpetuating their own genes, not another male’s genes.
Similarly, among humans, evolution dictates that the most motivated male in providing for and protecting children until they reach adulthood is the children’s own biological father. Impregnating lots of women and abandoning them is not a good evolutionary strategy for human males.
The real point of alpha manhood
So although evolution may have given these so-called “alpha males” in the PUA community their sex drive, these men have robbed that sex drive of its evolutionary meaning and purpose. They have abandoned the natural role of a real alpha male.
A real alpha male doesn’t just “have fun and have sex.” In nature, such a male would be a total failure.
A real alpha male fathers children, and then sticks with them right on through until they reach successful adulthood. And the best way to do that is to form a stable relationship with their mother.
Of course, there is more to human beings than nature, biology, and evolution. Sex and marriage are not only about having children. They also have meaning and purpose on a social and spiritual level. For more about that, we invite you to read the articles linked below.
For the third and final article in this series, see: “The Red Pill Movement (MGTOW): Men Waking Up as Loners.”
For further reading: